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Post by Samildanach on Jan 15, 2011 22:30:39 GMT -5
Congrats Samildanach...get used to always being wrong. I've got a wife and 4 daughters, so I'm 5 times as wrong. Koreth I've had quite enough of that in the past. My very first girlfriend used to assume things were wrong simply because I said them, even if was very easy to observe their correctness. I live in hope that some women have a grain of sense. I sympathise with you being surrounded by a wife and daughters. Must be a trying experience.
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koreth
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Post by koreth on Jan 15, 2011 22:59:31 GMT -5
Yeah, it can be. I've learned to push back and simply put them in their place.
Her: "You never listen to me !!!" Me" "I listen plenty. I just don' agree!"
We fight sometimes, but I find when I stand my ground and explain my position and that I'm not changing my position, it starts the groundwork for compromise on the margins. At least for me & my relationship, a "devil may care" attitude helps. Sometimes it pays to be an ass and hold your ground.
The kids take more after me than her. So it helps us relate. For good and bad, we are more "friends" with our kids and help "develop" their individual skills, and they know this. It helps in our specific case. The most valuable time I have with them is the time just talking about things going on in their lives, and life advice I give them.
Probably way more than you wanted to know. But with 5 kids (last one a boy), I'm proud of them all. I am immortal because I live on through them. I see so much of parts of myself (good and bad) through them. It is amazing what they teach me about myself.
And with the boy it is simple: I wrestle and tickle him and he laughs. We play with his cars and trains together and he laughs. Simple. It won't last, but man, it is awesome to make someone laugh hysterically just by doing stuff with them and being with them in their element.
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Post by Samildanach on Jan 15, 2011 23:43:22 GMT -5
And with the boy it is simple: I wrestle and tickle him and he laughs. We play with his cars and trains together and he laughs. Simple. It won't last, but man, it is awesome to make someone laugh hysterically just by doing stuff with them and being with them in their element. That's amazing. Almost makes me want to reproduce.
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Post by jan on Jan 16, 2011 3:51:29 GMT -5
She cried off because of a hangover. We're going tomorrow instead. Hmmmm... Hmmmm.... well, that's an interesting development.
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Post by Samildanach on Jan 16, 2011 9:36:00 GMT -5
Indeed. I'm not sure what to make of it, so I'm just waiting to see what happens next. To be fair, she was very apologetic and said that if tomorrow (now today) was inconvenient she could attempt to man up. Hmmmmmm......
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Post by Samildanach on Jan 16, 2011 12:33:38 GMT -5
Well "the game is afoot", as Holmes supposedly said. Seems Sunday night getting-to-know-each-other drinks are on. Wish me luck.
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Post by Beowuuf on Jan 16, 2011 12:46:32 GMT -5
Good luck!
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Post by jan on Jan 17, 2011 4:19:29 GMT -5
Good luck from me too!
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Post by Samildanach on Jan 18, 2011 18:38:13 GMT -5
Well, a couple of days later I'm still not sure how it went. It was kind of awkward, but I don't think that's too unusual on a first date. We became better acquainted, talked a lot, laughed quite a lot, and I grew to like her more. But I haven't got a clue how she thinks it went. Thanks to the fact she's only reachable by Facebook message or email (and often doesn't check either for days at a time) I haven't heard anything about whether she'd like to spend more time together at some point in the future.
All I can do is wait and try not to think about it.
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Post by Samildanach on Jan 18, 2011 19:05:40 GMT -5
How fateful. Twenty minutes later, the silence is broken.
Let's just say it's now uncomfortable for me to read the cheery first post in this topic, and leave it at that.
So...that Lone Wolf eh? What a character!
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Post by Hawkeye on Jan 18, 2011 22:56:18 GMT -5
Ouch, sorry for being late but I was just about to wish you luck and all the best, and now this. Sorry.
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Post by Samildanach on Jan 18, 2011 23:18:31 GMT -5
It's alright, it's not like I'm heartbroken. She was just a nice girl I quite liked and who I thought I was on a wavelength with, I didn't adore her from afar or anything. It's a harsh disappointment, but that's the way it goes. She's actually been very nice about it, to her credit. The worst part is knowing I could have done better and wondering if it would have made a difference.
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Post by Beowuuf on Jan 19, 2011 3:14:11 GMT -5
Well, you knew you can get the girl on a successful date, it was just breaking the 'asking them out and being rejected' streak. So better luck next time!
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Post by Samildanach on Jan 19, 2011 5:28:23 GMT -5
Now I just need to break the 'asking them out and not getting past the first date' streak.
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Post by Beowuuf on Jan 19, 2011 13:33:04 GMT -5
One occurence does not mke a streak!
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